Among the outstanding diversity of the 8.2 billion people who inhabit this planet, there is just one certain thing we all have in common. We are all mortal.
I have always had a picture of life as a moving footway,
like one of those things that you see at airports – only longer. We are all on it, all 8.2 billion of us. Some
have only recently stepped on it, like our grandchildren, and some of us, me
included, are getting closer and closer to the end.
Now before I become accused of painting a morbid picture,
in my defence let me just say that it is what we do while we are
on that travellator that is so much more important than when we get on and when
we get off.
My lovely sister stepped off it on Sunday, 83 years and
10 months after she started her journey, in Nottingham, England in 1941 and I
need to share just one or two of the memories I have of those early years when
the bonds between brothers and sisters are first shaped.
In May 1941 an event occurred in Britain known as the
Nottingham Blitz. Taking place over a couple of nights nearly 500 high
explosive bombs were dropped on Nottingham by the German Luftwaffe during
a dozen raids. Nearly 200 people were killed, and Nottingham was on fire.
This then was the setting that greeted Jean Anne
Williamson when she arrived in July of that year. Her mother Eileen was 25.
Arthur (later known always as John) was 28. He volunteered for active service
but was refused because he was working in an essential industry. He was head
mechanic at Chilwell Ordinance Depot a mile down the road from our family home
in Beeston. He was also a member of the Fire Service and the Home Guard.
The city was regularly bombed throughout the war, and it
is hard for most of us to imagine just how difficult it would have been for John,
Eileen and baby Jean during those times.
We have only to look at early photos to see that Jean was a beautiful child. Her smile
and her sunny personality lit up the room – it was something that characterised
her life.
During her first six years, Jean was the livewire who kept Dad and Mum on their toes. She tore around the house and the yard on her three-wheeled bike, she ran as fast as a hare and was a mean hand behind the wheel of a dodgem car.
Then
came the winter of 1948. One of the worst with persistent ice and snow, transport
chaos, power outages, air pollution and food rationing. It was during this time
that Jean first started to have breathing difficulties and developed a chronic
cough. It turned into a chest infection and hospitalisation, where she was
diagnosed with a lung condition known as bronchiectasis. She had surgery which included
removal of parts of both lungs.
It
was while she was in hospital that she contracted polio, an infectious disease which
was rising to epidemic proportions in children. There was no cure and until the
vaccine came along a few years later there was no way of providing immunity.
The
polio caused paralysis which affected her lower limbs and chest muscles. For
many months, she was only able to breathe by being placed in a huge metal box attached
to bellows known as an iron lung.
The
prognosis was not good, but she was strong-willed and in due course she started
to recover. She regained strength in her breathing but the paralysis in her
left leg remained with her for the rest of her life and she wore an iron caliper
for many years.
Jean
was indomitable. She started school in Beeston and despite the caliper and the
shortness of breath, I have clear memories of walking from school every day (7-year
old Mike and 11-year old Jean) from Beeston High Street, past the rubble of
bombed out buildings, through the local park and to our home in Queens Road.
I
remember it in summer rain. I remember it as we scuffed through brown Autumn
leaves, and I remember slipping on icy pavements in dark winters. Jean was
always there, and I would follow her all the way home.
But the English winters were not kind to her and the
advice from her doctors was to consider moving to a warmer climate.
Australia
was the destination of choice. Jean said to me, “we’re going to Queensland.” It meant nothing to me, but it must be OK, if
it was the Queen’s land. Maybe the Queen lived there.
In 1955,
Eileen and John and the kids, 13-year-old Jean, 9-year-old Mike and 5-year old
Phillip boarded SS Strathaird, Ten Pound Poms, bound for Australia.
After arriving in Brisbane, and with a job already lined
up, Dad flew north where he was to start work as a garage mechanic in the small
Far North Queensland town of Mossman. His first task was to find a home for us
to live in. The rest of followed by train a few weeks later.
The
trip was an introduction to Australia for my mother that she would never forget.
Fresh off the boat, having left a comfortable life in England, she was on a
train with three kids in tow travelling 1,000 miles to God knows where.
The air-conditioned Sunlander was still
a few years in the future, as we headed north on a clattering old train into
the North Queensland wet season. Stopping at sidings and stations for hours at
a time, it was a slow, uncomfortable trip with Mum doing her best to look after
and feed three kids. There were no sleeper cars, just sitting up all the way,
with the kids trying to get some sleep on the floor when they could.
At
the Burdekin, the old bridge was under several feet of water. Everyone lined up
in the rain and waited their turn to be crammed into a tiny boat, not much
bigger than a “tinnie” to be ferried across to the other shore. Once there we
were put in an even older train for the remaining 300 miles of the journey
north.
Our home was a tiny single-storey fibro dwelling a very
long way from Beeston. We lived in Mossman for about a year and then moved back
down the Cook Highway to the big smoke – where Dad got a job as workshop
foreman at the Cairns City Council.
In Cairns we lived in the old pound keeper’s house, a
three bedroom timber high-set home at the back of the City Council Depot.
Like
all kids growing up we all had our share of ups and downs. There is one story
I’d like to share which captures the type of sister she was. It was a Sunday
afternoon in 1956, a few weeks after our visit from Cyclone Agnes. Mum
and Dad were out, probably at Yorkey’s Knob Pub if truth be told leaving 15-year
old Jean in charge of Phillip and me.
We
were all fighting over something, which trivial as it is now, was no doubt important
then – perhaps something as critical as how loud the music was or why I
wouldn’t get out of her room and leave her in peace. In a moment of wickedness,
I took the key from inside her bedroom door and turning the key from the
outside, locked her in her room – now, see how you like that!
I
was determined to teach her a lesson and leave her there for as long as I
could. She pounded on the door a few times, but eventually things went quiet –
so I left her to it.
Then
I heard a scream. I unlocked the door. There she was, hanging by her fingertips
from one of the windows. As I said earlier, the house was on high blocks, and
she was hanging at least two metres above the concrete slab at the bottom of
our back stairs.
She’d
had the idea that to escape from her room she simply had to tie a few bedsheets
to the foot of the bed and climb out of the window. It absolutely worked in the
story books, but what was needed was a knot that wouldn’t untie itself as soon
as you put any weight on it.
I
couldn’t help her from inside, so I ran out the back and down the stairs. There
was Jean dangling above me, legs kicking wildly, just out of reach.
Did
we even have a ladder?
While
I was thinking about it, her grip on the sill gave way, and she fell with a crash
to the ground – I was not even there to break her fall.
She lay still for a while, with the breath knocked out of
her and then started groaning that her back hurt. After a while she got to her
feet and took a few painful steps.
All thoughts of our argument had vanished as I helped her
back into the house. Mum and Dad were due home at any minute – I was a dead
man!
Did Jean say anything to them about this? No she did
not.
The
next day, the family piled into the Vanguard and left for the long drive to
Mackay for a holiday with friends. It was a long and uncomfortable two day
drive over roads that bear no resemblance to the highways of today. Jean
complained that she had a sore back, I can’t imagine what the bruises must have
been like, but aside from a few meaningful looks at me, she never mentioned the
bedroom escape incident – ever.
I
told this story to my father, about thirty years later and he still got mad at
me. I don’t want to even think about how he would have dealt with it at the
time.
Jean
was 16-years old when she started her first job at a firm of engineering consultants
as a junior typist. She was there for a long time working for the office
manager, and many years later when I was coincidentally working for the same
firm in their Newcastle office, the son of that Cairns manager remembered Jean
and said her dad often spoke of her loyalty, her personality, and her integrity
as an example to others.
Dad was a big cricket fan and any time a social match was arranged between the Council and other organisations, Dad was there to take part and sometimes so was I.
One
such match took place in 1959 when the Council was hosting a visiting British
warship the HMS Crane. It was a friendly picnic match held at the local
cricket ground right next to the Council Yards and five minutes’ walk from our
house. The whole family was there, Mum, Dad, Jean, Phillip and me.
One
of the visiting players was a 20-year old able seaman from Bolton named Gordon.
He took a shine to Jean and after the match, when a few of them came back for a
few drinks to the Williamson house, Gordon was there.
Over
the next few months, Gordon and Jean regularly exchanged letters until one day
Gordon’s letter included a proposal of marriage – and Jean accepted.
The
rest is history. Gordon left the Royal Navy, emigrated to Australia, got a job,
found a house to rent and in October 1961 they were wed.
A
few years earlier, Dad had bought a double block of land, in a new area at the
top of Balaclava Road where there was nothing but cane farms and dirt roads.
This was Earlville. Dad gave one of the blocks to Jean and Gordon and work soon
commenced on the single story brick house which would become 2 Carmen Street –
the Skipp family home for the next 40 or 50 years.
This
then was our sister. For as long as I can remember, she was always the first
person I would share my news with. If I did something I was proud of, it wasn’t
my parents who I wanted to impress – it was Jean. Whenever I visited Cairns, it
was always at 2 Carmen Street, where I stashed my sleeping bag and when I asked
Pauline to marry me, and she said yes – it was Jean who I called first.
Until
last week when she stepped off that travelator we call life, there was never a
time when her face would not light up when one of us walked into the room.
She
was a loving sister to Phillip and me; she adored her children; her
grandchildren and great grandchildren and she was a wonderful friend to all of
us.
God
bless you, Jeannie – I’m sure you are with Gordon once again.